A mother’s prayers: the story of St Monica
Unhappy Marriage
First, let us look at who this
extraordinary woman was before we try to glean some lessons from her
life. We know little of her childhood, except that she was born in North
Africa in the year 333.
She was married early in life to a man named
Patritius, who held an official position in Tagaste. He was not a
Christian, and his practice of his pagan religion was only in name.
His temper was violent, and he appears to have had some wayward
habits. It is even said that he beat his wife. Consequently, Monica's
married life was far from being a happy one, more especially as
Patritius's mother seems to have been very similar in temperament. There
was, of course, a gulf between husband and wife: her alms deeds and her
habits of prayer annoyed him, but somehow he always held her in a sort
of reverence.
Monica was not the only matron of Tagaste whose married life was
unhappy but, by her sweetness and patience, she was able to exercise a
real apostolate amongst the wives and mothers of her native town. They
knew that she suffered as they did, and her words and example had a
positive effect. In due time she won the favour of her mother-in-law by
the mildness of her manner and by her patience in the midst of her
difficult marriage.
Family Fortunes
Three children were born of this
marriage: Augustine the eldest, Navigius the second, and a daughter,
Perpetua. Monica had been unable to secure baptism for her children, and
her grief was great when Augustine fell ill. In her distress, she
begged Patritius to allow him to be baptized; he agreed but, on the
boy's recovery, withdrew his consent.
All Monica's anxiety now centred on Augustine. Like his father before
him he, too, was wayward and lazy. He was sent to Madaura to school,
and Monica seems to have literally wrestled with God for the soul of her
son. A great consolation was given her, however, in compensation,
perhaps, for all that she was to experience through Augustine: Patritius
became a Christian.
Meanwhile, Augustine had been sent to Carthage to pursue his studies,
and there he fell into serious sin. Patritius died very shortly after
his reception into the Church, and Monica resolved not to marry again.
At Carthage, Augustine had become a follower of the Manichean sect, and
when, on his return home, he aired certain heretical propositions,
Monica drove him away from her table. Later, a strange vision which she
had urged her to take him back.
It was at this time that she went to see a certain holy bishop, whose
name is unknown, but who consoled her with the now famous words: 'The
child of those tears shall never perish'.
There is no more pathetic
story in the annals of the saints than that of Monica pursuing her
wayward son to Rome.
Saint Ambrose
Augustine, perhaps frustrated by
the presence of his 'nagging' mother, went off secretly to Milan. She
followed him there, however. In Milan, she found the bishop of that
city, St. Ambrose, and through him she ultimately had the joy of seeing
Augustine yield, after seventeen years of resistance. The story of his
conversion is a beautiful page in the annals of the saints, and worthy
of recounting in its own right. Mother and son spent six months of true
peace at Cassiacum, after which time Augustine was baptized in the
church of St. John the Baptist, in Milan. Africa called them, however,
and they set out on their journey, stopping at Civitavecchia and at
Ostia.
Remember Me at the Altar
Here death overtook Monica in 387, and the finest pages of his Confessions
were penned as the result of the emotion Augustine then experienced. In
these pages, Augustine recounts how he and his brother were discussing
where they might bury Monica when she died. She overheard their
whispers, and chided them somewhat for their concerns, with words which
have come down to us through the centuries and which have appeared on
millions of memorial cards: 'All I ask is that you remember me at the
altar of God'.
These are words I often quote in funeral sermons, knowing that the
saintly parishioners I bury would also want their children and
grandchildren to remember them in this way above all else. Monica was
buried at Ostia, and at first she seems to have been almost forgotten,
though her body was removed during the sixth century to a hidden crypt
in the church of St. Aureus. About the thirteenth century, however, the
cult of St. Monica began to spread, and a feast in her honour was kept
on 4 May.
In 1430, Pope Martin V ordered the relics to be brought to Rome. Many
miracles occurred on the way, and devotion to St. Monica was definitely
established. Later, the Archbishop of Rouen, Cardinal d'Estouteville,
built a church at Rome in honour of St. Augustine, and deposited the
relics of St. Monica in a chapel to the left of the high altar.
Prayer of St. Monica
Eternal and merciful Father, I give you thanks for the gift of your
divine Son, who suffered, died and rose for all people.
I thank you also
for my Catholic faith, and ask your help that I may grow in fidelity by
prayer, by works of charity and penance, by reflecting on your word,
and by regular participation in the sacraments of Penance and the Holy
Eucharist.
You gave St. Monica a spirit of selfless love, manifest in
her constant prayer for the conversion of her son, Augustine.
Inspired by boundless confidence in your power to move hearts, and by
the success of her prayer, I ask the grace to imitate her constancy in
prayer for (name a person here) who no longer shares in the intimate
life of the Catholic family.
Grant through my prayer and witness, that
he/she may be open to the promptings of your Holy Spirit to return to
loving union with your people.
Grant also that my prayer be ever hopeful
and that I may never judge another, for you alone can read hearts.
I
ask this through Christ our Lord, Amen.
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